Sometimes I do understand, just a little, the point of view of people who are against abortion. Life IS precious and we do only get one chance at it. But I will never understand people who not only want to outlaw abortion, but want to force rape and incest victims to bear children conceived by such abhorrent, violent ways and then give parental rights to the rapist. (!!!???!!!)
What. The. FUCK??!!
This is such a scary turn of events. And, if it were to pass, and if it were to become law throughout the country, how does a doctor decide if a pregnancy is endangering the mother’s life?? I very nearly died while I was pregnant with Willow. I was gravely ill when I was 26 weeks pregnant, and an induction was started to keep me alive. The doctors said that she had a 50/50 chance of surviving, and that if she survived, her chances of having severe complications were really high. But. But. But. I got better enough so that my life was no longer in immediate danger. Inexplicably. Amazingly. And they never did figure out what was wrong with me.
I was discussing abortion recently with two close family members who are very much anti-choice. I told them that if I found myself pregnant again, I would seriously consider ending the pregnancy. Would it completely break my heart to do so? Yes. Would I ever really forgive myself? Probably not. But, I have four children who really need their mom, and they are here, now. They are more alive. They have more rights to have me healthy. And these family members agreed with me, that, yes, I would be justified in aborting if I found myself pregnant. But, I said to them, how do you ever really know that the pregnancy could be fatal? You cannot predict those things with absolute certainty. And, I said, what about the woman who is in danger of being murdered when she happens to find herself pregnant? Because whether by a natural course of events or at the hands of angry relatives, pregnancy can be life threatening for many, many women. Are there women who use abortion as birth control? I would think not too many, given that it is not easy, ever. Is it something that most women struggle with and agonize over? I believe so. Is it ever going to make sense to let someone else decide what choice is right for me? No. The decision to end a pregnancy is up to one person and one person only. The woman who is pregnant. Her reasons are her own business. Our business, as a society, is to see that she has a clean, safe, supportive and expertly staffed place to go when she needs to end a pregnancy. Our responsibility as a society is to teach sex education in schools and everywhere else and to prevent unwanted pregnancies instead of pretending that teenagers don’t have sex. Our duty is to face reality rather than pretend things are all neat and clean and how we think they should be.
I really need to sleep. I am so tired I am not sure if my rant made sense, even. But, really. This is the most frightening thing I have read in a long time. It makes me sick.